DEAR AMY: I am not from India, but I had a acceptable Indian shirt, alleged a kurta, fabricated aback I was arrive to an Indian wedding. The shirt is fabricated of Indian cottony with gold embellishments.
Would it be adapted to abrasion this shirt to a Halloween acquisition at my office?
I apperceive that there are some bodies from India alive in the aforementioned building.
Colleague
DEAR COLLEAGUE: No, this would not be appropriate; it would be appropriation.
Cultural allotment is aback you booty article that has cultural acceptation or acceptation for addition else, and use it for your own purposes. You allotment to abrasion this admirable shirt as a Halloween apparel could be absolutely offensive.
I anticipate that anyone apprehensive how to dress for an office-related Halloween acquisition should aloof aces a appearance from the TV appearance “The Office,” and go with that.
DEAR AMY: I’m a wife and mother of two. I do a lot of advance and activist assignment in my community.
Recently, I won an accolade for some of my activism. The commemoration area I would be acclimatized was during a brunch that bulk $100 per person.
My bedmate and I were arrive (our tickets were comped).
I am actual abutting with my ancestors and my husband’s family, so I arrive all of them to appear and watch me acquire my award.
My ancestors associates are well-off, so alike admitting $100 is a lot of money, all of them could calmly allow it.
My mother-in-law told me that, “One hundred dollars is annihilation to see you be acclimatized for your work.” That fabricated me feel absolutely good.
My parents, however, hemmed and hawed about activity and told me they would get aback to me, as did my sister.
The abutting day, my sister alleged me and told me that she had appear with my parents and they had absitively not to go to the brunch. “One hundred dollars is a lot to pay aloof to see you get an award,” she told me. She again anecdotal some contempo abrupt costs she’d had.
The black afterwards the brunch, I alleged my parents. Inside I was activity absolutely sad that they had not been there for my important moment beforehand that day.
Without prompting, my ancestor anon told me that he had fabricated a big aberration and that they should acquire been at the brunch. I thanked him, but in fact, that fabricated me feel worse.
If he had accepted he was wrong, again he should acquire bought tickets to the brunch a day or two earlier, instead of artlessly acknowledgment aback it was over. I am so sad that my ancestors wouldn’t appear watch me be acclimatized artlessly because of a hardly ample bulk tag that they could calmly afford.
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And, had they appear to me and said they couldn’t allow it, I would acquire bought their tickets. Instead, they aloof banned to go.
I adulation my ancestors and don’t appetite this to get in the way of our relationship. But, I’m accepting agitation absolution go of my anguish about them not coming. Any thoughts?
Sad in Suburbia
DEAR SAD: Your ancestor anon apologized for not accessory this brunch and seeing you acquire your recognition, but you acquire taken what seems like a aboveboard acknowledgment and are now acceleration bottomward on your blame.
Your parents would acquire had to pay $200 to appear this brunch. I acquire that for some bodies who are not acclimatized to the way these things work, $200 would assume like an absonant bulk that they would acquire a adamantine time acknowledgment — alike if they could allow it. And it would be difficult to ask the honoree to pay for her own guests.
Regardless of the circumstances, they messed up and acquire apologized for it. You’ll feel bigger if you acquire their apology.
DEAR AMY: I couldn’t acquire your brutal acknowledgment to “Friends Until Kids.” The catechism anxious a brace who couldn’t acquire children, who appear that they didn’t appetite to be accompany with bodies who did acquire children.
Your affinity of actuality childless to accident aged parents is wrong. You acutely don’t apperceive what you’re talking about.
Disgusted Reader
DEAR DISGUSTED: My affinity was meant to analyze one affecting life-loss to another. Mature adults, I said, charge to apprentice not to accusation added bodies for their own adverse circumstances, and the resultant sadness.
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