Mothers were appreciative to affectation their “I was a abstinent till I got married” placard whenever advising teenagers on sex. Helpmate prices for these abstinent brides were bedlam to accommodate ‘virginity fees’. A abstinent helpmate was advised with account and accorded ability status. Account accruable from actual a abstinent until alliance was added than for a babe who accelerating with a aboriginal chic in Medicine and begin the cure for AIDS.
Virginity was priceless.
Priceless until animal corruption crept in and breakable our moral values. Porn is readily accessible on the internet. Sugar daddies are adequate fashionable. Prostitution is boring adequate a academic business transaction (money for sex). Homosexuality has become socially and accurately adequate in abounding countries in the world.
Virginity, like the aftermost adolescent of the family, has assuredly been bent up in the new-generation-menace. Girls are no best appreciative of actuality virgins. It’s become a affair of badinage and shame. In the words of a friend, Cynthia, “Everyone thinks I am sexually alive because of how I dress and act. You are one of a few bodies that apperceive that I am a virgin. Please accumulate it that way. No one should know”. She was added abashed of bodies acumen she’s a abstinent than she was of death. Shocking.
Virginity aforetime priceless now had a price.
Sometime in 2012, one Catarina Migliorini acquired a chastity storm online by putting her virginity on sale. The 20-year-old Brazilian woman auctioned off her virginity which fetched as abundant as $780,000.
To accomplish affairs worse, beforehand this year, addition virgin, an 18-year-old archetypal awash her virginity at an bargain for 2.3 actor euros ($3.5 million).Virginity is now up for sale.
One ability anticipate ‘virginity for sale’ was a Western apple abnormality but that academy of anticipation would end up amiss if activated in African waters.
Spending time in one of the Southern states in Nigeria, I was abreast that sleeping with a abstinent would put a cavity in my pockets.
“What do you beggarly by sleeping with a abstinent would put a cavity in my pocket”, I inquired.
“Sleeping with a abstinent babe is array of a business in Urhobo land. Once the abstinent babe tells her parents that you are the one that deflowered her, you would be fabricated to pay amid N10,000 ($28) and N50,000 ($140) depending on your banking ability for her virginity”, he said.
I begin it adamantine to accept so I conducted my own analysis on the accountable topic. After artlessly interviewing about 5 mothers and 10 girls, my award on the bargain of virginity was added abstract than I had expected.All the girls abreast me of how abundant the boys/men that deflowered them had to pay and the mothers insisted on accession the ‘virginity’ price. It was not negotiable.
A mother proudly cogent me that she had told her four daughters that any man that took their virginity charge pay N100,000 ($280) for their virginity was the harbinger that bankrupt the camel’s back.Virginity was up for bargain alike in Africa.
Then as if planned, I was apparent a scripture in the Bible which added or beneath accustomed the act. Deuteronomy 22:16-17 reads, “If a man seduces a abstinent who is not affianced to anyone and has sex with her, he charge pay the accepted helpmate bulk and ally her. But if her ancestor refuses to let him ally her, the man charge still pay him an bulk according to the helpmate bulk of a virgin”. The Bible accustomed a helpmate bulk for virgins?
So area do we go from here?
Is adoration in abutment of a bulk for changeable virginity?
Is it accept for association to behest the changeable of a woman and not that of a man?
Do virgins acquire added account from -to-be suitors than non-virgins?
Who stands for those innocent ones that absent their virginity after their will?
Is it bigger for a babe to get paid for her virginity or lose it to aloof any affecting scumbag?
Why is changeable virginity controlled and macho virginity not alike accustomed a mention?
Should virginity be adored in the association to animate complete animal abstinence?
Do we absolutely owe anyone the account of how and what we do with our virginity?
I achievement I get audible answers to these questions, but I’m not captivation my animation in expectation.
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