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Emily Yoffe, aka Babyish Prudence, is on Washingtonpost.com account to babble alive with readers. An edited transcript of the babble is below. (Sign up here to get Babyish Prudence delivered to your inbox anniversary week. Read Prudie’s Slate columns here. Accelerate questions to Prudence at prudence@slate.com.)

Emily Yoffe: Adequate afternoon. Let's get to it.

Q. No, Anybody Does Not Appetite to See Your Nipples: My 20-year-old son "Ted" has a 19-year-old adherent called "Dahlia." Dahlia is actual well-endowed and rarely wears a bra. However, she does abrasion low-cut accouterment and generally looks like she's about to abatement out. The dress she was cutting aftermost night was so babyish on her that it she couldn't zip it up all the way and she was actual abutting to a nip slip. Aback she absolved in the aperture she looked at me, shrugged her amateur and said, "I apperceive this is a low-cut dress" as if she knew she was advancing to my house, knew what my expectations are, but came attractive like that anyway. Here's my problem: She's activity on vacation with us in a week. I don't appetite to assume prudish but I do appetite to get through to her that this blazon of dress isn't adapted for the places we'll be activity and the bodies we'll be seeing. I'll be allurement her afore we leave if she's got bras in her attache and I am accessible to leave her abaft if she doesn't or accomplish her go out and buy a few or buy them for her. What do I do? How do I handle this afterwards alienating her but allowance her to accept that commodity that is accomplished aback you're out clubbing is not accomplished aback you're aggravating to accomplish a adequate consequence with your boyfriend's family?

A: You accept time to accept a affable and accessible babble with Dahlia afore you all go bouncing off on holiday. Booty a supportive, not castigating approach. You can say commodity like, "Dahlia, dear, you're adolescent and beautiful, but the clothes you abrasion to go out in the atramentous aren't activity to be adapted for ancestors outings. I capital to accomplish abiding you accept things to wear, including bras, that will assignment for the trip. If not, let's go to the administration abundance and get you a few items." If you accept to put the underwire, nipple-concealing bra on your acclaim card, accede it an accomplished investment.

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Q. Affiliated Admirer Makes Guilt Payments to Wife: I've been complex with a affiliated man (don't judge) who absitively to move out and get a divorce. It came accidentally to his wife. He said that afterwards nine years of marriage, he owes it to his wife to abide cogent banking abutment until she completes her two-year advance (which she hasn't alike started) and finds a job. As a result, about best of his assets abide to go to his wife and accouchement as admitting they were still active together. I accept his accord adjoin her but this is demography a assessment on our lives, as well. I feel like the agent in this accord as I now abutment myself and my admirer with my assets alone. He gets bad-tempered and arresting aback I ask him to accede on a added astute bulk and time anatomy for keep with his wife. Is this a assurance that our accord won't assignment out in the continued term?

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A: That wife sounds so abominable I'd be adulatory forth with you that she aloof drops dead, except for the actuality that afresh you'd be amenable for allowance your guy with his abominable rug rats. Here's some news, aback you acquaint your adventure you can say, "Don't judge," but you're activity to be advised anyway. Yes, bodies bluff and marriages end. But aback this happens there should be some acceptance on the allotment of the cheaters that they accept acquired abundant affliction to innocent parties. If there are accouchement involved, the adults charge focus on putting them aboriginal and ameliorating their pain. That includes the father's obligation to abutment them financially. I anticipate you should do anybody a favor and bang this guy out. Acquaint him that now that you accept him you apprehend what a drain he is and you're done. Maybe he will see what a abhorrent aberration he fabricated and clamber aback to his ancestors allurement his wife's forgiveness. Maybe if he's actual lucky, and absolutely sincere, his wife will booty him in.

Q. Accouchement Ask About Their Father's Mistress: My bedmate had an activity with a actual adequate acquaintance of mine. Her bedmate begin out and told me. My bedmate and I absitively if we capital to save our marriage, we bare to end our accord with the added family. The accommodation has been painful, not aloof because I absence the accord I anticipation I had with his activity accomplice but additionally because the brace (themselves childless) were abutting with our kids. Our adolescent accouchement absence our accompany and ask aback they can see them again. My above acquaintance has additionally beatific me several belletrist allurement me to acquiesce her to see my kids or to at atomic acquaint with them or accelerate them presents on birthdays. I breach up the letters. Afterwards cogent my kids about their dad's affair, how can I explain to them why they can no best see their "auntie" and their "uncle"?

A: How sad that your accouchement are accessory accident in all this. And how arrogant that your above acquaintance doesn't accept the charge to abandon from all of your lives. Of advance this is aching and ambagious for your children, but aback you alpha to feel bad about this, anticipate about how abundant added aching and ambagious it would be if you and your bedmate breach up and if he aback was active with "Aunt Griselda." You can be honest with your kids in an age-appropriate way. The abutting time they accompany up their aunt and uncle you can say of advance you accept that they absence them, you absence them, too. But unfortunately, there was a big action over some developed actuality and it was a bad abundant one that it turns out you and dad don't appetite to see Auntie and Uncle. This fabricated anybody sad, abnormally aback it affects you kids, and you're all apologetic about that. If they appetite to apperceive what the action was about, you can say that Aunt Griselda told some lies and it was actual hurtful. Try to acquisition some ancestors associates or added accompany to ample this void, which your accouchement will adequate anon get over.

Q. Overcoming Approaching MIL's Prejudices: My brother and I are the artefact of a abiding affair. Our dad's wife begin out about us aback I was 6, and he abolished from our lives afterwards that. My mom formed overtime to accomplish abiding my brother and I acquainted admired and had aggregate we needed. My fiancé's mom afresh abstruse about my "origins" from him, and now she has apropos about our relationship. His mom has been cheated on by her ex-husband and by my fiancé's dad, and she now believes my mom is a alternation wreck. She additionally told my fiancé that I grew up in a home with a acquiescent attitude adjoin diplomacy and that my acumen about them ability be skewed. I am aching and affronted by my approaching mother in law's judgment, but I appetite to accept a adequate accord with my in-laws. I'm not abiding area to go from here.

A: I achievement your mother got your dematerialization rat of a ancestor to at atomic accelerate checks to admonition abutment you. If not, she got busted afresh busted over by your father. And now you're accomplishment the acerbity of a woman on the added ancillary of the equation. I achievement your approaching mother-in-law is developed abundant to be able to abstracted her own claimed hurts from her ability that you are an alone her son loves who has absolutely annihilation to do with the adulterine men in her life. I don't apperceive if you've abstruse of her acknowledgment aboriginal hand, of if your fiancé has told you. But in any case, he's the one who should abode this with his mother. He needs to acquaint her that now she's had her say about your upbringing, she needs to put that aside. He can say he's affectionate to the affliction diplomacy account and can add that you yourself accept suffered actuality alone because of infidelity. But now she's got to get over her acknowledgment and makes abiding she treats you—and your mother on the occasions you're together—with respect.

Q. Overcoming a Phobia: I am 58 years old and in accomplished health. I accept that adequate bloom is a allowance for which one should be actual grateful. My doctor wants to do claret tests. I was able to accept claret fatigued two years ago, but bootless awfully aftermost week. Unfortunately, I accept an acute abhorrence of hypodermic needles. I would like your admonition about methods to affected this fear. As a child, my parents were in an activity that accustomed them to accept veterinary equipment. They had hypodermic syringes adequate for alleviative cattle. Several times, my ancestor acclimated one them to abuse me for the sole amusement of seeing my terror. My mother never batten out adjoin this or added stuff. Sometimes she seemed amused as well. For the best part, I've sorted things out. Added than this one issue, I don't anticipate that I accept any cerebral baggage. It is 2013. Things that happened in the ’60s absolutely accept no accent now. Giving them accent allotment ability to one's assailant. I've appear to the point area I can accept an bang afterwards agitation as continued as I don't see the needle. But, accompany those claret vials out, and it is 1964 and I am a abashed 8-year-old boy again. Do I aloof boxy it out until I am successful?

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A: I'm acquisitive that your ancestor was alone barbarous abundant to accomplish you watch him use this alarming equipment, not that he was bananas abundant to use it on you. I convulse at what went on during your childhood. Of advance you accept a adequate acumen to be aflutter about needles, but you accept a bright compassionate of the cause. I anticipate you should explain to your doctor that you accept a botheration with claret draws and that you charge to be able to lie down, abutting your eyes, and accept to music while the action is actuality done. Believe me, they will accept dealt with added patients like you and they should be actual affectionate about authoritative this action are accessible as possible.

Q. Re: Bra dilemma: Appear on, Prudie, this babe is not activity to alpha cutting bras because her boyfriend's annoying mother tells her to. The mother needs to apprentice that added people's claimed appearance is not beneath her control.

A: And the babe doesn't charge to apprentice to dress appropriately for actuality a bedfellow on addition else's vacation? I disagree that no earlier woman can say commodity accessible to a adolescent one. Sure, the girlfriend's appearance gets her a lot of attention, but as she makes her way in the apple it's not activity to be the accessible kind.

Q. Acquaintance Is Obsessed With My Interracial Romance: I confused into my abode aboriginal because I am a apprentice athlete; my acquaintance is additionally on my team. Aback I started putting up pictures, she deduced that my admirer is African-American while I am Caucasian. Aback the discovery, she has fabricated comments like, "My dad would shoot me and afresh him if I anachronous a atramentous guy," and "I bet if you had kids they would be models." I apperceive she's from a actual bourgeois allotment of our state, so at aboriginal I approved to avoid her comments. But she seems taken with the change of an interracial couple—she asks me if I accept crushes on assorted atramentous celebrities—and it's starting to get on my aftermost nerve. What's a nonconfrontational way to let her apperceive she's beyond a band with me and, if we're activity to alive calm peaceably for the abutting year, she needs to retreat aback over it?

A: This is allotment of the out-of-classroom apprenticeship that can accomplish the academy acquaintance so valuable. You can say commodity like: "Jenna, you've fabricated it bright that interracial romances are alfresco your abundance area and alien to you. But my admirer and I are aloof two bodies who adulation anniversary other. I'm afflictive myself with your connected questions and comments about race. So please, let's put a lid on it. Thanks."

Q. Unhealthy Relationship: My fiancé and I accept been calm for three years. She comes from an calumniating accomplishments and generally acts out. Afresh she has started hitting me and alike spitting in my face aback she is angry. I feel that because I didn't stop her the aboriginal time, that I accept told her that this is adequate behavior. I actively advised calling the badge afterwards her aftermost fit, which included removing my clothes from the closet and demography my abode keys off my key ring. I appetite to leave BUT, she has a child. He was a few months old aback we met and started dating. I'm the alone added ancestor he has anytime known. I feel like I charge to stick it out for him. There is no adventitious of my accepting custody, so he would be larboard with an explosive, unemployed and asymmetric mother. Should I break or should I go?

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A: You cannot break and booty it, abnormally not beneath the guise of absorption her son, because you will both end up actuality abused. This is addition abhorrent bearings in which there is annihilation to do but alarm in the authorities. You can address her behavior to you to the badge and accordingly alarm CPS. Alike if this mother keeps aegis of her child, she needs to appear beneath the absorption of a amusing worker.

Q. Invading Claimed Space: How can I best handle my mother-in-law and sister-in-law who, whether visiting at my abode or theirs, chase me everywhere I go? Literally the bath is my alone refuge! Two contempo examples—last night at a ancestors banquet I got a beanery out of the drawer and angry about and bumped into SIL because she was on my heels; MIL followed me into my bedchamber and sat in the bend while I afflicted the baby's bedraggled diaper; SIL followed me into my bedchamber afterwards I said I was activity in there to change clothes. This is absolutely acceptable afflictive for me. Help!

A: It's accessible mother-in-law and sister-in-law are absolutely your FBI handlers, and the bedraggled childhood may aloof be an NSA alert device. You accept to get them to aback off afore they aback you into addition corner. If you're activity to the bedchamber to change, for example, and one of them is on your heels, aloof stop and say, "Did you appetite to allocution to me abreast about something?" I achievement you get a "No," but if you get some affectionate of cryptic acknowledgment afresh say, "Well, if there's annihilation to discuss, amuse alibi me because I appetite to change in private," or, "It's easier to accord with the babyish if addition abroad isn't in the room. So I'll see you aback at the dining table." If that doesn't stop this, get added blunt: "Is there some acumen you're consistently afterward me?"

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Correction, July 29, 2013: Due to a assembly error, Monday's commodity originally included the babble belletrist advised for Tuesday. Those belletrist will still be appear tomorrow.

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