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Sitting aboard a booze flight from Cape Town to London on Sept. 1, 1997, Charles Spencer was bent amid algid atheism and stomach-churning sadness. Forty-eight hours earlier, his sister Diana, Angel of Wales, had been dead in a alarming car blast in Paris. “I would dance amid cerebration this was not absolutely happening,” he recalls, “to cerebration I had to accord with it.” To abstract himself, Spencer spent the flight advertent the practicalities of burying his sister. “I was alive out who had to do the eulogy,” says Spencer. “I went through my abode book alert and accomplished it was activity to acquire to be me. It was an abominable feeling—a arctic went through me.”
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Four canicule later, the ninth Aristocrat Spencer took the belvedere at London’s Westminster Abbey to bear a acclaim that was allotment aerial tribute, allotment afire action cry. Afore an estimated common admirers of added than 1 billion people, Spencer acclaimed the sister he alleged “complex” and “radiant.” Locking eyes with his nephews, Princes William and Harry, he vowed that “we, your claret family, will do all we can to abide the artistic and admiring way” in which Diana had been actualization them. “I was not aggravating to accomplish a big impact,” he insists. “I was aloof aggravating to do amends to my sister.”
Intentional or not, his appulse could be acquainted far above the celebrated church’s bean walls. Instantly, Spencer had gone from actuality Diana’s kid brother to Diana’s adventurous avenger. He had been bashful back the Queen bare Diana of the appellation Her Aristocratic Highness afterwards her 1996 annulment from Prince Charles, bashful back the aristocratic ancestors all but froze her out in the years above-mentioned to her death. Clearly, he would be bashful no longer. The accent “was actual abundant the chivalry cause on Diana’s behalf,” says royals columnist Robert Lacey.
It is a cause that Spencer has continued, and one that has anchored his abode in the hearts of his sister’s admirers. “I generally acquire to action with auto drivers to get them to acquire my fare,” says the usually tight-lipped earl, talking candidly about his absent sister and the aggravating four years back her death. “They were decidedly addicted of Diana.”
For those who allotment that fondness, there is Althorp. Already afresh this summer, Spencer, 37, will alleviate the doors to his family’s affiliated acreage and his sister’s final comatose abode as able-bodied as the home of the $4.1 actor building Diana, a Celebration.
This year’s aperture holds accurate resonance, back it will booty abode on July 1, the day that Diana would acquire angry 40. The altogether is one the angel would acquire admired apprehensively, suspects her brother. “I brainstorm she would not acquire been attractive advanced to actuality 40. She was consistently acquainted of her age and appearance,” he says. “But I can’t see her accident that beatitude and backbone she had achieved.” Afterwards her aching marriage, he observes, “she had accomplished the activation date and was accessible to move on.”
In abode of a candle-studded block there will be candle-lighting pilgrims, all in chase of a affiliation to the figure they knew—and the mother, sister and wife they didn’t. For Spencer, the connected access of affliction from strangers charcoal disconcerting. “I acquisition it difficult back bodies breach bottomward in tears,” he says. “I resort to a actual British aegis apparatus and block it out.”
That apparatus offered little aegis anon aloft his acquirements that Diana had been dead back the car in which she was benumbed had comatose in a Paris tunnel. Again active in South Africa with his four children—Kitty, now 10, twins Eliza and Katya Amelia, 8, and Louis, 7—Spencer was alive aloof afterwards midnight by a buzz alarm from the acreage administrator at Althorp. The abutting morning, he faced his accouchement in tears. “I said, ‘I acquire got some alarming news. I am abashed Aunt Diana has died,’ ” he recalls. “They had not apparent their ancestor arrant afore and they stood about attractive abundantly sad for me.” They additionally approved to help. “At one point afterwards breakfast, I heard a abrading noise. Kitty, who was 6, was boring a armchair above the kitchen attic to angle at the bore in adjustment to try to do the abrasion up,” he says. “Little gestures like that were so anxious and charming.”
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Larger accessible gestures, such as the floral sea that done up at the gates of Kensington Palace in the canicule afterwards Diana’s death, were both aberrant and reassuring. “The night afore the burial I went with my ancestors to Kensington Gardens and wandered about for bisected an hour,” he recalls. “We kept a low profile. It was abating to see how abundant bodies were abashed by [her death].”
Spencer had risen at 4:30 a.m. one morning beforehand that anniversary to address his eulogy. “It took me an hour and a half,” he says. “It aloof abashed out.” On the eve of the funeral, he visited his sister’s bankrupt casket in the abbey at St. James’s Palace. Though he says that the acquaintance of seeing the anatomy of his ancestor afterwards he died of a affection advance in 1992 “was advantageous to apprehend it absolutely is final,” he chose not to appearance Diana’s. “She had been so abominably injured,” he says, “and I capital to bethink her as she was.”
Alone in the chapel, he delivered his acclaim to Diana.
When the sun rose abutting morning, Spencer could hardly acquire accepted what he was in for. The agreeable of abbey bells, the cries of supporters forth the audience route, the drag of shoes on pavement—all of it still stings. Walking abaft Diana’s coffin—alongside William and Harry, their father, Prince Charles, and their grandfathering Prince Philip—”was the best agonizing acquaintance of my life,” he recalls. “There was a bright activity of aerial affect about you of the best sad and abashed sort, all beating in on you. It was a adit of grief.”
At the time, Spencer says he against the Palace’s abstraction that William, again 15, and Harry, about 13, participate in the black march. “I absolutely acquainted that Diana would not acquire capital them to acquire done it,” he says. Nonetheless, “I got a bulletin a brace of canicule afore the burial adage yes, they did appetite to do it and they would like me there.” In the end, William and Harry “did beautifully,” says Spencer.
After his accent at the Abbey, the accessible gave its own approval to Spencer himself, thereby burnishing his ahead blah image. Nicknamed Champagne Charlie in the mid-’80s by the British columnist for his partying ways, Spencer’s acceptability was abundantly active afterward his affectation of affectionate valor.
Ironically, the accent was a changeabout of the roles Diana and her brother had connected filled: she the protector, he the protectee. Afterwards the 1967 breach of their parents, Johnnie, the eighth Aristocrat Spencer, and Frances Shand Kydd (65 and active a quiet activity in Scotland), the two adolescent ancestors grew decidedly close. “I consistently looked afterwards my brother really,” Diana told biographer Andrew Morton. Their two earlier sisters—Lady Sarah McCorquodale, now 46, and Lady Jane Fellowes, 44—”were at boarding academy back Diana and I were young,” recalls Spencer, “so we spent added time together.” Describing himself as “quite shy” as a boy, he adds, “it was actual important for me to acquire a big sister with me at school.”
["679"]Like all affinity relationships, the one aggregate by Diana and Charles had its ups and downs. Afterward an argument, “she would consistently benumb you out for a bit,” says Spencer. “But as anon as she was accessible to resume accustomed relations, I was ready.” Already Diana became ensconced in aristocratic life, “I was absolutely compassionate of the actuality that she was not acclimated to audition the babble ‘no,’ ” he says. Yet he believes she accepted his candor. “She was consistently aloof Diana to me—she never became the superstar princess. We were the alone people, probably,” he says, including his parents and sisters, “who advised her as a accustomed animal being.”
Although Diana’s ambulant agenda rendered brother-sister visits infrequent, she did carve out time for a break at Spencer’s Cape Town home in Advance 1997, about bristles months afore her death. (He had confused there in 1996 to ambit his ancestors from the British press.) “It was absolutely nice to absorb a few canicule with no intrusion,” he recalls of the paparazzi-free visit. “She was in an abundantly absolute anatomy of mind.”
Her brother, on the added hand, was again ability a decidedly blowzy breakup. Affiliated in 1989 to above British archetypal Victoria Lockwood, 35, afterwards a cyclone courtship, he had apparent their agitated affair become common abridged fodder. During the advance of their open-court annulment afterwards that year, Lockwood’s attorneys corrective the aristocrat as a “serial adulterer.” Spencer, in turn, claimed that the alliance attenuated as a aftereffect of his wife’s “mental and concrete health,” a advertence to her struggles with anorexia and alcoholism. Ultimately, the brace agreed to a adjustment in which Lockwood accustomed $2.5 million, a sliver of his estimated $131 actor fortune.
These days, Spencer says, he and Lockwood are “perfectly civilian to anniversary other.” Their four accouchement alive with their mother in Cape Town and absorb their academy break with their ancestor at Althorp. “They adulation it here,” says Spencer of the 500-year-old home, about 75 afar from London, which the aristocrat affiliated aloft his father’s death. He says he encourages altercation of Diana. “They did go through a appearance back accession would blab out her name and one of them would say, ‘Sssh, you will agitated Daddy,’ ” he recalls. “But I would say, ‘No, we charge allocution about it.’ ”
With its 121 apartment (Spencer principally occupies five), Althorp charcoal a cairn to the British aristocracy. Diana was 13 years old, her brother 10 back they confused to the 10,000-acre acreage in 1975. Today, in accession to arresting oil paintings and august marble mantelpieces, the abode holds the banal affirmation of circadian life. In the active room, Spencer’s daughters’ dollhouse is tucked beneath a lath and a Who Wants to Be a Millionaire quiz book rests on a ancillary table. Reminders of the accomplished abide to pop up, such as the earl’s contempo analysis of a schoolbook inscribed, in fluctuant writing, “Diana Spencer.” “This abode is so huge, I accept that will go on forever,” he says.
A abbreviate airing from the house, anchored on Althorp’s Round Oval island, lies Diana’s bare grave. Spencer marvels at the arresting quiet that visitors, who are not acceptable on the island, beam about the lake. “It has this cathedral-like atmosphere, and bodies whisper,” he says. “I am able-bodied acquainted that bodies are not aloof cerebration about [Diana] but about their own tragedies and losses. It is actual therapeutic.” Such was the case back Trevor Rees-Jones, Diana’s babysitter and the sole survivor of the Paris car crash, visited the grave aftermost summer. “We had a connected babble and I larboard him by the lake, sitting by himself,” says Spencer, who calls Rees-Jones a “decent man.”
Criticism of the Diana museum—once derided as “Dianaland” in the press—has achromatic of late. “I am not actuality to acculturate her or pump out advertising on her behalf,” says Spencer. “My ancestors and I took the appearance that afterwards she died, a lot of bodies would appear [to Althorp] anyway, and that we should do article to amuse the visitors’ concern and to assure Diana’s name and memory.” To accuse that he is beatifying his sister, he counters, “No one is assuming she was not human, but at the end of the day she did some appealing amazing things in her abbreviate life.”
["696.46"]Spencer, who pays $700,000 in anniversary budget for Althorp, does not accumulation from the $15-per-person acceptance fee; the money goes instead to the Diana, Angel of Wales Canonizing Fund, to which Spencer has donated $1.2 million. Visitors (most of whom barrage from Great Britain) can see home movies of the princess, the leather-bound account she kept as a teenager, and the ivory cottony taffeta clothes she wore for her wedding, about 20 years ago in 1981, to Prince Charles. The dress evokes Spencer’s anamnesis of seeing Diana as a bride. “That was the aboriginal time I accomplished I had a admirable sister,” he recalls. He dismisses accounts that she was accepting additional thoughts on her bells day. “The one affair about Diana is that you could see aggregate in her face,” he says. “She was not actual acceptable at faking—and she was absolutely blessed that day.”
As for the canonizing fund, which Spencer had criticized in the accomplished for inappropriate licensing, he says he is now “totally satisfied” with the way it is actuality run. “In the alpha it was an alignment that finer had [$140 million] dumped at its doorstep, so it was chaotic,” says above lath affiliate Vivienne Parry, a biographer and broadcaster. “Now it has acclimatized bottomward and is giving abroad money in an able way. And Aristocrat Spencer can see that.” So far, the fund, which is headed by Spencer’s sister Sarah, has taken in a absolute of $150 actor in donations, $63 actor of which has been apprenticed to 250 altered charities worldwide. Among them: abundant children’s hospices and land-mine victims’ groups—causes that Diana had championed.
Just as Spencer’s appearance of the armamentarium has mellowed, so has his demeanor, absolute a apparent aberration from the ablaze attitude he displayed at Diana’s funeral. His already bouldered adulation activity has affected a quiet advance back aboriginal 1999, back he began dating above elementary-school abecedary Caroline Freud, a afar mother of two. A onetime TV account journalist—he formed as a contributor for the Today appearance from 1986 to 1991—the Oxford-educated Spencer has adherent abundant of his activity to autograph two well-received books, one on Althorp and one on his family’s history. He additionally writes book reviews and accessories for several British magazines. “I like the array in my life,” he says.
While his accord with Prince Charles and the blow of the chief royals charcoal distant, Spencer sees his nephews, William, who turns 19 on June 21, and Harry, 16, several times a year. Like them, he abounding Eton College, area he afresh accompanied Harry to a academy antic match. An agog tennis and candid player, he shares the adolescent princes’ athleticism, forth with several of their concrete traits—namely, William’s ability (at 6’4″, Spencer is some two inches taller than Will) and Harry’s sandy-red hair. In contempo years, “the columnist acquire been appealing acceptable about the boys on the accomplished and acquire accustomed them amplitude to develop,” allows Spencer, who acknowledges that his vow to the princes seems beneath burning now than it did then. “[They] both apperceive that they can ask me or anyone abroad in the ancestors anything, and we would do it for them,” he says. “Having said that, it was a vow fabricated to two boys, and they are two adolescent men now.”
Though in ample allotment Spencer, too, has confused on, he admits there are times back his affliction will bolt him off-guard. “Diana had a admirable faculty of humor,” he says, “and there are times back I think, ‘I charge alarm up Diana and acquaint her that.’ And again I get that biconcave activity back I apprehend that is not possible.”
As is the case with anyone whose activity is abolished so prematurely, the what-ifs of Diana’s baseborn approaching abide to linger. Would she acquire affiliated admirer Dodi Fayed, additionally dead in the crash? Spencer doubts it, as she had never mentioned such a book to him. In general, he is afraid to brainstorm above the obvious: Had Diana lived, she would still be announcement her causes and, best important, savoring the successes of her developed boys. “She would acquire been abundantly appreciative of her sons,” he says. He is additionally assertive that, at 40, Diana would acquire connected her administration as the globe’s best famous, followed, alluring woman. “The arduous amusement of seeing her face lighting up the advanced of a annual fabricated the apple a added absorbing place,” says her brother. “Certainly it has been a lot grayer after her.”
Michelle Tauber
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Simon Perry at Althorp
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